I’ve seen and heard many new perspectives during our time with Timothy, but one that caught me off guard was from a friend who has a son with a serious cognitive (mental) disability.
In the course of the conversation, I said something like “We need to really accept Timothy’s Down syndrome diagnosis. We’re the lucky ones — it’ll be a lot tougher for him, since he’s the one who has to deal with the disability.”
To which my friend replied, “Hard to say – maybe he won’t mind having Down syndrome.”
That took me back a little.
Now, I don’t think Timothy is exactly ringing the church bells in celebration over having Down syndrome, but I also don’t know how he feels or will feel about it in the future.
My starting assumption is that it’s a tough deal and that I should feel sorry for him.
But maybe the point is that I should suspend my assumptions and just meet him where he is – as a beautiful little boy – and try not to let the Down syndrome thing cloud my view too much.
I will say that Timothy is a happy little boy — especially when he’s pulling your hair.
Grateful for new perspectives and oatmeal,